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Our brain does not merely store our experiences. Each experience changes
the brain — structurally, electrically, chemically. The brain
becomes the experience. In order to break free from the stress cycle,
we need to feed our brains and bodies with experiences of mastery, creativity,
and joy. Our minds — the way we think about things — have
tremendous power to help us rebuild and rewire our brains, power that
we too often ignore or use self-destructively. But we can use that power
constructively, to build autonomy, competence, and relatedness, and
help ourselves step off the stress cycle forever.
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About Depression and this Website
"I want this website
to be a place where people can find the tools they need to help them
live better. In my work I see far too many people who suffer needlessly
because they either don't recognize their own problems or because they've
come to believe that their loneliness or pain is normal. We've tried
to structure this site from the bottom up, so to speak, in order that
people will recognize in our topics the problems they're dealing with,
find some help on those issues, and some guidance on getting further
We want to make this a truly
interactive site. We don't pretend to have all the answers. If you find
something that works for you, please let us know about it. Give us feedback.
Suggest articles and tools, and we will add them to the site."
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"The book, Undoing Depression, was my
effort to help people unlearn the self-defeating habits of depression
and replace them with more rewarding ways of living."
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Six Simple Steps
to Help Fight Depression
• Get help. Don't be ashamed of needing medication,
and don't give up until you find something that helps. And see a therapist.
• Identify your feelings and moods. Depression is a self-destructive
effort to avoid feeling. Accept that emotions are natural and helpful.
Learn that mood changes don't come "out of the blue" —
they are always started by an event, a memory, a dream. Use the Mood Journal
to identify what starts your mood changes.
• Challenge depressed thinking. People with depression remember
and blame themselves for bad events, while they forget about and give
others credit for good events. Their low expectations mean they often
don't prepare adequately and give up too easily. Worst, they think they
are essentially different — damaged somehow — from other people.
These are all learned habits of thought that can be unlearned. Pay attention
to your assumptions and beliefs.
• Let others know. Depressives fear intimacy more than most people.
We put on masks for the world, because we believe our true selves to be
shameful, unworthy. But this belief is wrong. When we're with someone
we can trust, sharing our thoughts and feelings — even if they seem
unimportant — is good for us.
• Take care of your self. Learn to pay attention to messages from
your body. Depressives abuse themselves by not eating right, not exercising,
then expecting to work 12 hours straight. They will deny a minor ache
or pain until they have an ulcer or a chronic back condition. Take time
for moderate exercise, eat healthy but delicious meals, and allow yourself
some pleasure in life.
• Practice detachment. We spend far too much time and effort trying
to control things that aren't worth the struggle. Many things that worry
us are really unimportant; we've just gotten overinvolved and lost our
bearings. We may find that we're trying to change things that we realistically
cannot change. Instead of battering your head against a brick wall, learn
to walk away.
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"The reader comes away with a clear sense of what he or
she can do to feel better, and how to deal with the things that get in
the way of a person doing what needs to be done, and doing it consistently."
(To read this review of Active Treatment of Depression, click
Introduction and Chapter One
Soprano Survival Kit
Undoing Depression Makes the Hit List
Do you live with
someone who is depressed? Here are some things you can do to help...
A drama written by award-winning playwright David Rabe,
based on characters and incidents in Undoing Depression...For more information
and to read the complete play, click here.
The Original Cast: Meryl Streep, Jill Clayburgh,
Sam Waterston, Edward Herrmann, Star Herrmann, Henry Gummer, and Lily
From Undoing Depression:
Everyone gives lip service to the idea that depressed people are self-destructive.
After all, suicide is the extreme end of depression. Of milder forms,
we say, "He keeps shooting himself in the foot," or "She's her own worst
enemy." We romanticize the self-destructive tendencies of artists like
Dylan Thomas or Kurt Cobain.
What exactly does this mean, to be self-destructive? Freud originally
theorized that depression was aggression, the destructive wish, turned
against the self, an explanation which still has some poetic or intuitive
appeal though it doesn't tell us much about recovery...Additional
Are You a Gifted Adult?
Problems of the Gifted...findings of GASP,
the first Gifted Adults Study Program
The Real Reason You Feel So Bad-- And
What You Can Do To Feel Good
Undoing Perpetual Stress: The Missing Link Between Depression,
Anxiety and 21st-Century Illness
[Visit the Undoing
Stress Website ]
There are two major ideas in the book:
The first is that our nervous systems are not built for the
stresses of the 21st century. Though we all talk about "stress,"
we are largely unaware of just how much unseen stress we are constantly
immersed in—stress that affects us in the mind, brain, and body.
In an effort to cope, we develop what I call the Perpetual Stress Response—the
fight-or-flight response stuck in the "on" position. We become
caught in a vicious circle: the effects of stress on our minds damages
our bodies and brains in a measurable, physical way; and these physical
changes further affect our minds—the way we think, feel, and relate—in
an invisible, unconscious way. Physical and mental, observable and unconscious—these
injuries reinforce each other, trapping us in a vicious circle from
which there seems to be no escape. We feel the effects of the vicious
circle of Perpetual Stress in many different ways: as depression and
anxiety; as physical symptoms; as motivations for addictions; as dysfunctional
relationships; and as empty, unhappy lives.
The second major idea is that, just as our brains and nervous
systems are vulnerable to the damage of stress, we have the power to
heal that damage by making deliberate choices about how we live.
The new neuroscience is showing that the brain is constantly changing
in reaction to experience; thus, we can literally rewire our own brains.
College students taught to juggle show microscopic growth in certain
areas of the brain; the brains of London taxi drivers are enlarged in
the areas responsible for geographic orientation. The brain—and
the mind—are both much more subject to influence than we ever
imagined, and that influence can work to hurt us or to heal us.
We can reverse the vicious circle that traps us, and create what I call
an adaptive spiral—a progressive cycle in which the changes we
make in how we think, feel, act, and treat ourselves all reinforce each
other, making change easier, more effective, and more permanent. We
can get the observable and the unconscious, the mind, brain, and body,
all working together in synchrony, to help us recover from what ails
us now and to protect us from future stress.
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Holiday Blues, the Winter Blahs. Whatever we choose to call it, some people
find it harder to cope at this time of year. Read
more about it and find some ways out...
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