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Sheila's Story

This is a composite of several stories, but the details are absolutely true, and far too common. A woman contacted us a while ago to get some follow-up care for her adolescent daughter, who was being discharged from a psychiatric hospital after a bizarre runaway episode. But let's focus now on the mother, not the child.

Sheila is a witty, sensitive, intelligent woman in her 30s. If she were your neighbor you would like her. She works hard, pays her bills, in general is an upstanding citizen. She is a single mother, having been divorced from her husband a few years ago.

She is the daughter of alcoholic parents. Her father was physically and emotionally abusive to her; Sheila was beaten frequently, and made to feel that she was ugly, bad, useless, incompetent, and to blame for all the family problems. You would not have known any of this if you lived next door to them. The family was successful economically, liked and respected in the community. Sheila got out of the home as soon as she could by jumping into marriage with the first man who asked her.

But by the time their first child was born, Sheila's husband had begun beating her. She became an example of this cycle of abuse, which is hard to understand but is seen a lot, where women who have been abused as children find themselves in abusive marriages. She put up with it for a few years, then got away with her daughter She made good use of women's services, and seemed to land on her feet.

Now here she is at our door with her out of control daughter. As we explore, we find that not only does daughter run away from home repeatedly, but she is defiant, belligerent, and physically aggressive toward her mother. Sheila is intimidated and feels helpless. In fact, she has a major depression; she can't sleep, doesn't eat right, feels hopeless, guilty, and ashamed all the time, can't concentrate, has thoughts of suicide--all the symptoms. She is surprised to hear that, from our point of view, she has an illness; her state feels normal to her. But this is frequently the case with major depression--despite being more costly to our society than heart disease or AIDS, it's a disease that often goes unrecognized, even by those who have it.

So here we are: abused by her father, her husband, now by her child. Our patient is aware of the irony; it's another stick she beats herself up with. "Why can't I just snap out of it?" she asks. "Why can't I just take charge of my life?" Our answer - that she has a disease called depression which she can't cure by herself - doesn't entirely satisfy her. Too much of our society believes that depression is a sign of moral weakness or lack of character - including most of those who suffer with the disease.

This is another aspect to Sheila's problems. Imagine that every time you went to the doctor you were made to feel guilty. Imagine that we as a society assumed that there is a state called "health" which is "normal"; that being ill is deviant, weak, shameful, or your own fault. Because that is exactly how Sheila, and in fact all our patients, are made to feel. Wouldn't it be crazy if you had to feel that if you caught pneumonia, or broke a leg, or developed a degenerative disease, that you were somehow to blame for your own trouble? Isn't it crazy now that people with depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder, or schizophrenia, have to feel that way?

Now let's ask: how does Sheila pay for getting the help she needs?

First of all, it's necessary to recognize that she has to pay for it. We get a state grant that helps us pay for services to her children, but there is no state grant for adult mental health services. If Sheila had a substance abuse problem, or were chronically mentally ill, there would also be state funds to help her out. States are cutting back on subsidies for people with acute mental health needs, who are dismissed as "the worried well." So Sheila's on her own.

Now, Sheila's employer is using a managed care plan. This means they will reimburse us following their usual practice for mental health services: 50 percent of the cost of each office visit, to a maximum of $1000/year. This is a rather standard benefit plan. At our commercial rate of $120/hour for individual psychotherapy, they will pay $60 per visit. At that rate her benefits for the year are exhausted after 17 treatment hours, four months of once-a-week treatment. Plus, she's expected to pay the co-pay of $60 per visit.

Think about this for a minute. Suppose you had cancer and required regular chemotherapy, or kidney disease and required dialysis, or pulmonary disease and required oxygen and physical therapy; or that you had Lyme disease and needed visiting nurses and IV antibiotics; or that your child had an accident and required surgery--what would happen if there were an annual cap on benefits for these conditions? What would happen if there were a copay of 50% on these benefits? You know what would happen--there'd be a revolution. But we seem to take it for granted that there should be caps and copays on mental health services--remember what I said about being made to feel that you are to blame for your own disease?

We work out a plan with Sheila where she will come for psychotherapy every other week, and attend our free self-help group on depression. She will pay us our minimum fee out of pocket, and we'll accept what her insurance pays us. We'll continue to treat her after her insurance benefits are exhausted. We would prefer that she be seen weekly until she's better, but she doesn't want to do that, even when we offer to reduce her fee further. In addition, she sees our psychiatrist about every other month. Her medication costs $8 a day--$3000 a year--thank god her insurance only requires a copay of $10 on each prescription. She makes about $15 an hour on her job--that's a gross of $30,000/year--could anyone expect her to pay 10 percent of her gross for medication?

Sheila will pay us about $900 per year for her counseling, and her insurance will pay us another $1000. It will cost us something like $3800 to provide her with the group weekly and individual counseling every other week and her psychiatrist visit at our cost/hour of about $45. We do our best to be efficient and cost-effective, but realistically Sheila will require perhaps a year or two of professional help before she can recover.

Sheila is very fortunate to live in a community that makes it possible for a clinic like ours to come up with the $1900 in additional funds that it will take to help get her back on her feet. Most people in the U.S. don't have that kind of resource.

But I'm tired of organizing fundraisers, coaxing our board members to ask their friends for contributions, and going hat in hand to the United Way, year after year. They're all tired of hearing from me, too. Isn't it time we face up to the problem? Can anyone provide an argument on any ground - economic, moral, therapeutic - to explain why we don't embrace Sheila's problems as part of the social contract? Even in the crassest financial terms, it just makes sense to help keep Sheila working so that she continues to pay into Social Security rather than draw on it, help her function as a mother to keep her daughter in school and out of trouble and the hospital again.

How did we get into a situation where "parity" is even a subject of discussion?


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